lessalweds (lessalweds) wrote in uk_weddings,

  • Location:
  • Mood:
  • Music:

Bridal SOS!

I hope this Post is allowed as I realise it is somewhat scatty and unfocused (which, you'll see as you read, is the issue!).

My problem is this;

I'm currently training to be a Paramedic, I started off volunteering about 6 months ago and since then my entire life has been this huge whirlwind of exams, lectures, rig-shifts (ambulance shifts) and medic duties. I work full time, do overnight 12 hour rig-shifts and it seems like almost every hour of my life is filled with this stuff. I love it but it is my entire life at the moment.

My Wedding is on the 27th March 2009 and I have two of the biggest exams of my life right before and right after the big day. The exams that I'm doing are brand new, trial exams, they've never been done before and I was shortlisted to be in the first group to do them. It's a lot of pressure and a huge deal; I beat out over 300 people to get a place on the courses and CANNOT fail. If I postpone them I lose my place on the course and will have to wait TWO YEARS to be able to reapply. Not to mention the number of people I'd be letting down.

So, as you can see, I have the biggest opportunity of my life right smack in the middle of the biggest DAY of my life!

I'll be completely honest with you - I'm drowning. I am rapidly approaching D-Day and have lost ALL grip on everything. I'm desperate for some help and guidance please!

I've sorted (at least in part):-

  • My dress
  • My BM's dresses
  • The Reception Venue
  • The Church
  • Flowers


I know lots of you will be horrified at this and it probably comes across as apathy, I can assure you all I love The Boy deeply and cannot wait to be his Wife but I am floundering!

I do have some people who can help but I've got to the point where the "big picture" i.e. all I've got to sort out/do is scaring the heck out of me and I can't see past the immensity of it all to focus on manageable chunks.

Can any of you help in anyway? I'd be SO grateful for anything, ideas, hints, lists, tips, anything you can think of to help me break down what I've got to do, delegate etc, etc.

Obviously I'll accept the unwritten but completely valid "Why the heck didn't you get all this sorted before you daft woman" comments ;-) I just HAD the time and then all of a sudden DIDN'T! Just call me Ostrich-Girl! ;-)

Thank you all SO, SO much in advance.

Lessal x

P.S. x-posted everywhere, sorry


  • Post a new comment


    Anonymous comments are disabled in this journal

    default userpic
First of all don't panic. Does your reception venue have entertainment they recommend? That would save time. Or can you put the groom in charge of sorting music or photography?
Again, I hadn't even thought of this! So simple!! Doh!

I'll get on it this weekend, thank you so much.

main things you need!

Person to marry you



Paperwork sorted


entertainment (pick song for your first dance)


Table plan (or you could just make a plan for the main table and leave everyone els to find there own seat)

Flowers (you dont need to go crazy here)

I know 3 females getting married this year and they are all stressing over details. I was married last year and it was a fantastic day but what I learned from it is the following:

I could have done my own flowers, if the venue is nice enough, all you need is flowers for yourself and girls and buttonholes. Maybe flowers for tables too.

I didnt do order of service for people, which worked out fine, no one noticed.

Dont go crazy on the cake if your not bothered. Do something simple and put a ribbon round it. I wish we had not gone to a professional and had one made for a stupid price. We should have just gone to m&s and bought one. No one pays attention to the detail of the cake that much. Get a nice topper and it will look fantastic.

Just make sure the dress fits a week before and that you have the paperwork done and you and your groom will be there on the day :)

Oh and best of luck with the planning and I hope you pass your exams! x
"Person to marry you" as stressed out as I am, this actually made me laugh out loud, thank you so much :-)

I agree, the cake is being sorted be a Family friend and I am SO glad you said about the order of service, we haven't done one and I was in panic mode about it.

THANK YOU for giving me some perspective!! :-)

NP glad I made you laugh. Hope your wedding goes well and cant wait to hear about it x
Honestly, don't panic about it. You have some of the biggest bits sorted!

I had a list of everything we had to do and then who was doing those bits ~ as we were 500 miles away from the venue, we had to enlist the help of a lot of people!

Are the reception venue providing the food? Just ask what they would normally serve at a wedding or get a BM to sort this for you. Same with the entertainment, get the groom to sort this, and pick a first dance.

I did the flowers and table decorations myself. If you have a local wholesale flower market, order from them. I had just a bouquet of loosely tied white roses and gave my BM's 1 white rose each.

As for a table plan, if you wanted to do one, then it really won't take long. Write down everyone's names on little bits of paper and move them round. Me and my other half did ours in one evening, wrote it up on nice paper and stuck it on a plain canvas my mum saw in a stationery shop.

I've been to so many weddings in the last year and they've all been so different. Some have been really personal with just the bare minimum and others have been quite grand. At the end of the day, it's not the day but the 'being married' that matters and your day should really reflect the two of you!
Try the Wedding section of this site http://www.tinytotty.co.uk/

It's quite new and some of the links are broken but it might help you :-)

Good luck with your wedding and the exams xx
You need to get on with the inviations, as if it is a March wedding, you really should be getting them out soon, even just for your own piece of mind.

I made my own, but have you thought about doing an online invitation/rsvp? There are some cool websites around to help you but I think it would be prrry easy, quick and cheap to design your own. If anyone comments, you can say you're being green (no paper and all that) and besides, I think people would like to reply to an email as it's easier and more convienient. They can always print the invite out if they need it.

Another way to do it, is via a wedding website, which could have all of your information on it, and just send people a link directing them there - however, they are rather time consuming to make (I used www.weddingpath.co.uk for ours.)

Menus - ask if the venue can organise these - ours did. (They also offered to do the place cards, although I opted to make my own)

Order of Service - if you're not bothered about it being personalised, ask the Church.

Photographer - you don't really need one. Ask a family member/friend to take photographs, I'm pretty sure that with a good camera they would turn out just as well, and everyone always knows someone who will be more than happy to do it.

Mens suits - get him to do it!

Rings - decide what you want before you go looking. It was really easy for us as we just wanted plain gold bands, but there is loads of choice, so have it in your head before hand what you want.

Ask one of your BM's to do lots of groundwork for you. I'm BM in August for someone as busy as you, and I'm more than happy to do a lot of work for her, so just ask.

Good luck, and let me know if I can help in anyway (I am amazing at sourcing things in your style/colour) I'm serious, I love helping out with weddings lol, hence I still lurk here, even though I don't post anymore!